So its time to create the guest list; this may be a boring job compared to choosing a caterer or deciding on your outfit it it still as important.
1. What are your reasons for having a Traditional Wedding in the first place
2. What is you're BUDGET
3. What is the capacity of the chosen venue
There is no point inviting 'the world and it's mother' when the venue can only occupy 100 people. We often make that mistake of feeling obliged to invite everyone - this should NOT be the case.
You are free to write down a 'dream list', this will have everyone you would ideally like to be there.
Now It's time to get back to reality and start trimming that dream list down until you reach your real number. The easiest way to cut the list is to come up with rules and actually stick to them. It'll be easier in the long run and you'll avoid potential drama down the line. What do we mean by "rules"? Here are a few common ones (for those who want to be very strict about their wedding guest list)
Rule 1: If neither of you has spoken to or met them or heard their name before, don't invite them.
Rule 2: Not crazy about inviting children to your party? Don't feel bad about having an adults-only Traditional wedding.
Rule 3: If neither of you has spoken to them in three years and they're not related to you somehow, don't invite them.
Rule 4: If there's anyone who's on the list because you feel guilty about leaving them off (maybe because you were invited to their Traditional Wedding or they're friends with lots of people who are invited), don't invite them.
Rule 2: Not crazy about inviting children to your party? Don't feel bad about having an adults-only Traditional wedding.
Rule 3: If neither of you has spoken to them in three years and they're not related to you somehow, don't invite them.
Rule 4: If there's anyone who's on the list because you feel guilty about leaving them off (maybe because you were invited to their Traditional Wedding or they're friends with lots of people who are invited), don't invite them.
Traditional Wedding (especially in the African Culture) can be extremely family orientated and you may feel obliged to invite all family members; but again this can be decided by taking into the account the 3 points i mentioned above.
There is no point inviting guests that you are not able to comfortably cater for!
There are other invitees that may be a bit more difficult to decide on inviting or not. For example, you recently started a new job and your boss has been so accommodating with regards to your plans, allowing you to leave early to view venues, etc. Should you invite your boss? hmmmm that is totally up to you. It all depends on the relationship that you have built with your boss and in addition will he or she even want to attend?
You also have the option of giving both families an even number of guests to invite and stick to.
You must also consider your friends who are in a relationship or engaged.
I know this may seem a lot to consider when considering who to invite, but trust me it is worth doing.
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You also have the option of giving both families an even number of guests to invite and stick to.
You must also consider your friends who are in a relationship or engaged.
I know this may seem a lot to consider when considering who to invite, but trust me it is worth doing.
It's Your Day, Have it a Special Way (with Special People)
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